My dad and I in our last picture together

Who was your first superhero?

Mine was my dad.

I don’t talk about him a lot, mainly because I don’t like the idea of making people feel bad for me, and I don’t thrive on the sympathy.
Another reason is that others have tried to use it as a weapon against me; saying I’m “less than” for losing a parent at a young-ish age, it’s a “weakness”, I’m somehow “damaged”, or have “daddy issues”… when they have never experienced a loss like this.

But a good friend reminded me (you know who you are ❤) that people trust people who have been through real things. So maybe it’s time to share a bit more here on my platform.

I think a terrible disservice we can do to someone’s memory is make their loss about us. I think another is forgetting what they taught us and not sharing those lessons, which helps to keep their memory alive.

Experiencing a loss like this isn’t a weakness. Coming out on the other side is strength, and I think we should use that pain to help others who are going through it. Be a light in the darkness of grief.

Loss is hard. Pain is hard. But it can be helpful when shared.

This was our last picture taken together in 2013 before he passed away.

He’s the strongest person I’ve ever known. He was faced with insurmountable odds and faced them with more bravery than I’ve ever seen.

He was a great dad. I think I took that for granted. As I’ve gotten older, I understand him a lot more.

I’m grateful for everything he taught me – from comic book knowledge, our debates about Team Batman versus Team Superman (where we would always butt heads – we did that a LOT), for teaching me how to defend myself, how to kick ass and take names, and for giving me strong role models to look up to. From our nights of watching Buffy together to staying up late to make sure I made it home safely every night until I moved out… he was always there.

He taught me that girls and women could be strong and be superheroes, too… and do it better than the boys.

He was the biggest inspiration for my voiceover business when I rebranded as The Voiceover Superhero in January of 2018, when I moved from theatre/on-camera to doing VO full time and created my LLC. He was always supportive of my acting career, wanted me to succeed, and encouraged me on the days where it was REALLY hard.

What a gift.

Today would have been his 63rd birthday; and I’m honoring him by remembering the lessons he taught me, sharing this story, and hoping that this story can be helpful to someone else out there, too.

Outside of how to get started in VO, I most often get questions about how to get work, or if I can send someone work directly. Usually these come from people I’ve just met or don’t know at all.⁣⁣⁣
I believe in doing the best work, and that is no exception when someone I trust has referred me to one of their clients. It’s my job to make the script shine and to do top level work, but to also make my friend/associate/colleague/client look good in their client’s eyes. This way everyone wins, and the relationships are still strong.⁣⁣⁣
So if I refer someone to a client or potential client, I’m doing it in the utmost faith that they will do good work, because I trust them and I want them to succeed. I want them to give the same high caliber level of work that I provide, and I want to keep that networking relationship with both the client and the talent. ⁣⁣⁣
This is why I typically decline when someone I have just met asks me to send their contact info to my clients or agents. If I’m familiar with their work and love what they do, I’ll make an exception. ⁣⁣⁣
I’m often sought out to help cast projects for clients and send referrals, and I hope my clients know that I take it as seriously as I take my own work. ⁣⁣

Want to be treated like a professional? Act like one. ⁣

A photo I took on my visit to Kennedy Space Center in March 2019

… and what a giant leap it was.

I was lucky enough to hear stories about it first-hand from those who were there, both in person and watching it on television with people around the world.

Although I wasn’t there, getting to relive those memories with people who were is a memory I’ll always cherish and never forget.

Neil Armstrong, Buzz Aldrin, and Michael Collins were names I knew very well when I was growing up. Many summers of my childhood consisted of pool parties like your average kid, with visits to JPL, conventions, Planetary Society meetings, and gatherings to watch Mars landings sprinkled in between.

52 years ago today, the impossible happened.

We learned more about science, our world, and the mysteries of the cosmos.

We learned that the impossible WAS actually possible.

We believed we could achieve anything.

That’s the spirit I’m carrying with me today.

I hope it inspires you today, too ❤

If you’re taking a voice acting class for the first time, please don’t be shocked or offended if your teacher/coach doesn’t throw you behind the mic right away, especially if you’re totally new to acting.

If you’ve never done any acting before, your teacher wants to make sure you have a solid foundation and understanding of acting terms and basics before throwing any curveballs at you with voice acting techniques.

You wouldn’t start building a house without a solid foundation, right? The same thing goes for folks who are new to voiceover who have also never taken an acting class. It’s a good idea to start with a solid foundation.

Is it totally necessary to take an acting class before doing VO? Not necessarily… but I think most people agree that it absolutely helps.

So if you’re taking a VO class from a theatre-trained teacher, at a theatre, you can probably expect some theatre-based activities, games, and exercises designed to help give you a basic understanding of these principles and a stronger base to create your characters in voiceover.

The last thing I want to do is feel like I haven’t done everything I can to help students do their best work, nor do I want them to feel confused and overwhelmed by the time they get behind the microphone – especially if they’re totally brand new to acting.

“You’re selfish.”

If that’s the voice of your inner critic, too – maybe take a step back and think. Is that YOUR voice or someone else’s?

Chances are it’s not yours but someone close to you, who you loved, who called you that. Maybe more than one person.

I once read that our meanest inner criticisms are not things we’ve thought about ourselves, but what someone else has called us. Makes sense, right?

So… are you selfish for taking care of yourSELF?

No… At least, not the “bad” kind we focus on in society when we think of the word “selfish.”

Doing what lights you up, what makes you happy, what makes you a better YOU is not the bad kind of selfish.

Being a better version of yourself makes you better for the people you love.

If you can’t take care of yourself, how on earth can you take care of anyone else?

Take back the power.

The next time your inner critic pipes up and calls you selfish when you’re pursuing your dreams, you can always respond with, “Yeah – I am. But this isn’t your story. This is mine.”

Or… Think of something cool, pretend I said it.

I believe in you 💜